This summer we went up to our family cabin in Lake Tahoe. Usually we have small projects to work on and lot of family time hiking, swimming in the lake, river rafting and just relaxing. This vacation has been a bit different. We were all excited to get to the cabin we also knew there was a deck to rebuild. My husband Keith thought with everyone’s help we can finish in 4 days. Well, we are on day 7 and it is still not complete.
My daughter’s hung in there with Keith hoping each day would bring us closer to completion. We hit snags as we went along and the deck work is now our vacation with very little play time in between.
Today we are sneaking off to the beach for a few hours of swim time, we will return refreshed to work on the deck again.
My daughters have stayed by my husbands side each day tirelessly working with minor complaints. There is a strong bond now with this deck as our summer vacation. It is not the summer vacation we were planning on taking, but the results will be a lifetime memory. Soon my daughters will be off to college and to find work in LA. It was a great 10 days of bonding before they go. Keith and I have been told “We don’t want to build any more decks on vacation”, but I know they are proud of their work!
Even though this week is going to be busy for many people in Santa Barbara because of the annual fun filled Fiesta’s week, I want to encourage Mom’s, Dad’s, Aunt’s, Uncle’s or Grandparent’s in the Santa Barbara County to put in your calendars “Empty Nesters Very First Get Together.” I will be hosting this get together on September 6th at 9 A.M., at Via Maestra in Santa Barbara.
This get together is meant for people who have raised kids or helped raise kids who are either already gone to college, getting ready to leave the house or for people still in the process of getting prepared for this happening one day.
To RSVP call or text Nancy Newquist-Nolan at (805) 570-1015, or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
There are so many situations a guardian can be in while their child is finally away from home, this group is going to be about sharing stories and asking questions that arise when talking about an “Empty Nest.”
It’s still hard for me to believe my oldest daughter Chandler is now 22 years old because to this day I still see her as my little girl. She was the first out of my kids to leave the nest and the first to leave me with so many questions like: How can I show I’m there for her even if she isn’t living under my roof anymore? What can I do or say to help her get through a difficult roommate situation? After countless other scenarios during Chandler’s four years in college I still don’t believe I’m an expert on being an “Empty Nester,” but day by day as new situations occur I’ve learned to take them in and handle them the best way I can.
There’s so many other questions I have and I believe there’s no better way than to talk to other parents who are going through the same thing. If you are in the Santa Barbara County and you are interested in getting together with other parents who are “Empty Nesters,” I am planning a get together at Via Maestra in Santa Barbara on September 6th, at 9 A.M.
RSVP at: email@example.com or text or call (805) 570-1015
Would you like to meet other parents that have an empty nest?
My two daughters, each have reached that age where they have left my husband and I in an “Empty Nest.”
I know I get stressed but I know I’m not alone. What better way to get through this than getting together with other parents who go through the same things?
School is about to start for our kids whether they are in grade school or college, a nerve wracking time for our kids and us as parents, especially if it results in
an empty nest!
I’ve been going through what it’s like to be an empty nester for nearly a year now but I still don’t have the answers to many questions like these:
What if my child is not happy?
How to miss them but still give them a chance to find their own way?
How can I be supportive the right way?
Let’s meet for Coffee at Via Maestra in Santa Barbara and share our experiences and discuss questions like these!
Time: 9 A.M
If you are interested call or text Nancy Newquist-Nolan at (805) 570-1015, or email firstname.lastname@example.org to RSVP!
ONE MORE DAY…
We have one more full day here at home, tomorrow is the day we take Hanna to college. I tell myself this is an adventure to keep calm and cool.
Check list of things to pack, everything has to fit in suitcases, what doesn’t fit we can’t take. We will have plenty to purchase when we arrive, this will be one of the many tasks we will have when we arrive, filling up Hanna’s new room to make her feel at home and at ease.
Currently Hanna has one, maybe two roommates, she has met them on Facebook. The one roommate was supposed to be sharing a room her best friend and is trying to change rooms. Like I said an adventure.
Of course, my real estate business has gone crazy, this seems to happen often when I take a trip. I guess it is all good, it keeps me from thinking about what is really going on in my home. My broker Diane will keep things in line for me, what would I do without her!
One More Day, BREATHE!
The girls at Disneyland with A very popular Peter Pan!
“Wednesday morning at five o’clock as the day begins
Silently closing her bedroom door….” ~ The Beatles
I woke up one morning…near the holidays last year 2013 – in a sort of panic. I looked around the house and began to think about what it will be like when my youngest daughter-Hanna leaves home next year to go to The University Puget Sound in Washington (out of state ouch!). “My second “chick” is leaving home”, I thought. I am so busy all the time-I am a full time realtor and my husband is an architect. Hanna’s senior year at Dos Pueblos High School-she was pretty self sufficient…she drives now and was in two very intense programs at school-golf and engineering. Hanna said, “Mom I think this year will make it easy to let me go in the fall..I am never around Mom.” The feelings I had when she said that were sort of “I will believe it when I see it.” I am the emotional one, my husband on the other hand -thinks an “away four year college experience is essential.”
My friend Laurie called me around the same time…kind of like me…freaking out a little about our youngest daughters leaving home. Laurie is a full-time Mom-so the “pangs” of loss created by her youngest daughter leaving are perhaps deeper-her daughters and family are her life. Where as I have a career. We often walk dogs together, have coffee,swim at La Cumbre Club…our daughters are golfers and we met because our daughters both play.Though we may have very different lives-we feel the same…we miss our youngest daughters already.
The realization that other Mom’s and Dad’s (and folks who may not be actual Moms and Dads -yet they do the job) might feel like us-kept popping into my mind.The idea for Empty Nest Santa Barbara came one night as I was “attempting” to cook dinner-(I am not the cook in the family my very patient and willing husband is).I could even say-they might be leaving home to get away from my cooking…Anyhow- I was getting really sad thinking about my youngest leaving home..and then a light came on and I came up with the idea.
“When your kid’s leave home what’s next?”
Empty Nest Santa Barbara…is about parents…aunts ..uncles..brothers and sisters…anyone who has raised kids ..or helped raise kids…been the cupcake mommy-the athletics volunteer…sitting in uncomfortable bleachers…chaperoning long road trips…the ones that show up and care..and devote a lot of time for the 18 or so years it takes to get these “chicks launched”. They are now leaving home-for college,careers,Gap years and life in general. We are looking for ways to productively and creatively interact,help the community and have a good time.
Always open to suggestions-we want to create a new “Nest”-for the Empty Nester!
Empty Nest Santa Barbara launch coming soon!
Fax: (805) 569-0643